The WAS is seeking validation, or security, or their needs, elsewhere! Because they have created (in their own head) such a warped since of reality that they refused to sit and talk to their spouse like an adult and express their own needs and why they need what they do. If for one second we all got out of our own head and thought about "are we really giving what my spouse really need" the answer would be NO!
But we are so caught up in our own pain we never for one second think "what is my spouse going through" & it doesn't matter LBS or WAS we both don't do it until it's too late (LBS= when the WAS leaves & WAS = when the fairy tale of the OP dissolves ) WAS are so quick to blame the LBS for all of their issues, but half of the blame is the WAS's
Did the LBS fulfill all your needs, probably not (were all your needs reasonable "make me happy" do you know what even makes you happy?)
Did the WAS fulfill all of the LBS needs, probably not
I know a woman who's been divorced 4 times and she can't seem to figure out the one thing in common in all 4 marriages!! (It's her)
Last edited by alexjadams; 04/23/0905:09 PM.
WAW 32 ME 38 D11, S9 & D2 Together 10/96 Married 4/2000 Bomb 4/2006 PA1 9/2006 PA2 11/2006 I now know I want out, With my Kids!!!
