Probable Affair

[markhaving probs]

My wife had asked me earlier in the week if I would cut the lawn. I agreed and did so today, though I'm wondering if I should have done it or not? The paradox is 1. Now I have cut the grass is this seen as being helpful or weak, pandering to her wishes? 2. I should have told her I am busy and get somebody else to do it. What should I do/have done?

While we were on the phone she asked me to have the children on dates when officially I would not have them. I agreed to all bar one night. She said she wanted me to have them on a specific night when she told me she was going to a barbeque which was adults only and she could get a babysitter, but if I had them she could have a few drinks (she never used to drink) and I could have them overnight. This statement really hurt me as I presume she wanted me to know she was "have a few drinks" and was "with adults". My mind started playing tricks with the scenarios I was painting which I must stop. I said I would get back to her when I knew. I left it for a couple of hours and then texted to say 'no, cannot do' and left it at that. She then texted back 'how come?', I thought about whether I should respond to this or not. Rightly or wrongly I responded with 'I am away until the following day'. This made her mad as she then spouted things like 'I thought you wanted to see the children more, you gave me this sob story about not seeing them' etc etc. I take offence to calling it a sob story said in a demeaning way but she has no respect for me and obviously sees me as a weak individual. In my opinion she was mad because I believe she was planning an overnight stay with OP and I would have the children. I am not having the children that night to stop 'fueling her affair', I am doing it to draw a boundary to say I will not have the children every time she wants, I have a life too. She also said "typical out of sight, out of mind", I ignored this.

She then went on to say I could have picked up the children from school and does not know why she has to point these sort of things out to me. She just rambled basically, and then sends me a text thanking me for cutting the grass and did the little ramp her father fixed up help!!!! What is she doing one minute mean, next minute nice. I have not responded to that text. Interstingly, she has tried to call me on the landline, which I ignored, she has tried to just call my mobile. What is going on?