Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing 2

[Thinker]

Thanks SLM, I need this feedback.

I have been more affectionate in the past day - (in conflict with "Stop the Pursuit").

I think that sometimes she is angry at me and does not want any affection, and sometimes she is angry at me because she is not getting any affection - and the frustrating part is that I can't tell the difference...

She also is incapable of asking for attention. A long time ago she would ask freely, but in our current sitch, for some reason, she just can't.

Last night she got into bed and - silent and on the far side of the bed. I broke the silence by saying I would like to hug her goodnight and we hugged / snuggled for a while...and then again for a bit before we got up this morning.

I am happier for it.

I am really not sure. I get so little feedback. I can never really tell whether she is a) trying to avoid me and is then silently putting up with it when I hug her, or b)is silently wanting attention and therefore happy when I hug her. I honestly can't tell the difference.

There are definitely times when I try to hug her and get rebuffed - "Leave me alone, I don't want to be touched right now!"