I should clarify, in case you haven't been reading my sitch closely: I have no evidence of anything other than the very early signs of an EA. The woman is damned near delusional right now, in many ways, so it's very possible that even THAT is one-sided. Her cellphone records indicate that she is the pursuer, and my gut tells me that her mindset right now is more toward serial promiscuity (to re-stoke her need for validation of her youth and beauty) than it is any serious new relationship.
That all being said, I agree with you wholeheartedly -- this IS about my kids at this point, and I'm making conscious efforts to step up their moral instruction now. My daughters (22, 20) have already indicated to me that their mother has some serious issues, and to the extent that her wayward behavior has ever been revealed to them, they have expressed grave concerns (even to her) over it.
