Peace, You are way ahead of your H on the growth curve. He still has a lot of reality to face, while you've already been facing and learning all along the way.
Smart of you to see how he is trying to push his anger back on to you-and good for you for sidestepping it! You are a good role model for your children as far as what it means to be a caring parent and being a mature, responsible adult.
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.