Then go to a counselor who isn't connected with the military. No?
Do we really care that she feels that it should come naturally? We know that she's WRONG. Her opinions aren't so credible based on how she has been conducting herself. Anyway, if she ran off into the sunset with OM, she would soon learn that he isn't the total package, either. Nobody is. PUH-LEEZ.
Do you have any sisters or any other female influences who are mature, loving people? If so, I would recommend you make plans to hang out with them and your daughter. Your daughter needs a role model so that she doesn't learn that this behavior is acceptable.