You could call the counselor and start going, and then invite her to join in. She might be so confused, that a simple phone call and scheduling an appointment might feel daunting. She might need an easier introduction into it, especially if she hasn't gone through counseling before.
I already am going and have been for a while now. I offered yesterday for her to join me and she refused.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!