All I really, really want, nay, need, is honesty from her.
The point of the transparency is to enforce the honesty and to allow you to believe when she is being honest.
As SP said, We have all learned (the painful lesson) that our WAW's are very accomplished liars when it comes to OM. This completely destroys the trust that was there before, so that afterwards, it is very hard to believe her even when she is being honest.
You are both going to have to understand that. You are going to have to request the transparency - it is much harder to request later, and believe me you are going to want it. She is going to have to respect that need. At the same time, once you have it, you are going to have to restrain yourself from using it (unless you have good cause). Otherwise, it can easily become an addictive, destructive and controlling habit on your part.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
