This is so great. I was so frustrated reading AF's post this morning, I almost signed off with, "PUPPY... HELP!!!"
AF: You could call the counselor and start going, and then invite her to join in. She might be so confused, that a simple phone call and scheduling an appointment might feel daunting. She might need an easier introduction into it, especially if she hasn't gone through counseling before.
Her coworkers and friends are being "supportive" and telling her what she wants to hear. Most people are not wise to all of this stuff (you know, all this being faithful and stuff ; )). No one but your W and you and your daughter have to live with her choice of "who is better for her". The fact that she's asking all around tells me that she really needs time for introspection and self awareness. Why would anyone else's opinion have weight? Because she is, sadly, not a grown up... yet.
Oh, and the fact that she wants you to just know and for it to be easy is a sure sign that she doesn't understand that marriage takes work, no matter who you are. Her own immaturity is her worst enemy in this situation.
