I'm not sure that's the right stance, HJR. He could be saying that he doesn't know what he wants out of self protection.
You are HANGING on every action and word from him. You are focusing on all of his actions. You are waiting to see what he's going to do next and whether he will choose you, despite your wishy washy indifference toward him. Nobody is THAT great, to expect to dangle someone on a string and wait for him to beg for mercy. He can't tell you what you should want or do in this situation. Only you can decide.
It sounds like he, in fact, sees you as the person who broke the trust in the marriage. Waiting for him to come to you is just feeding into a childish standoff.
