Sandi's in Piecing and it's getting better

[MrBond]

Hi Sandi.

I totally understand what you're saying and I'm dealing with her working with the OM as best I can.

Like yourself she had been very defensive about bringing him up and I think she's struggling with it.

The two recent times I brought up the OM was because I had gotten to the point where I was sick of her treating me like I was a sex offender whenever I got close. I brought to the forefront all of the things that she asked me to do to further her EA which at the time I didn't it was. Afterwards, she was surprised and told me she didn't realize she did all of that.

I think that's why in her mind she's trying, but unless he understands how she gave away our attraction and gave it to the OM, it's going to take awhile.

I have to admit though that I really miss ML. It's been over a year and my W has expressed no interest. I sure it's because of her emotions not being engaged. Out of curiosity, when you were coming off your high of the OM, did you first initiate ML with your H to try or did he? If it was your H, did you see it as pursuing?

I don't want to seem like I'm pursuing too much and am trying to give her as much space as possible. But until she opens up about what's going on internally, I'm not going to get a shot.