"How does my H find respect for me after I have slapped a safety order summons on him. I needed to protect myself but it is still a very definite path to take."
Stop dwelling on this. You set a boundary and that's it. You're telling him that you are not going to let him continue being a man-whore in your R and are looking after your and your daughter's interests. It's something he should have done if he were a real man.
"We need to be able to respect our spouses."
Yes, however in order to earn respect they have to show respect. And seeing what your H has been doing to you has shown that he is treating you like dirt. Not out of respect, but out of control and manipulation.
Let me put it to you this way. When your D marries. Do you want her to have to buy her own wedding ring or not take her H name because he feels she may not be "worthy" of it? That's essentially what your H has been telling you and treating you. It sounds like since the beginning, he has always left the door open a crack so he can escape when he couldn't handle things.
Do you know why he D the first time?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
