The adventure continues--part 3

[AFWAW]

Oh, I am becoming so conflicted at this point. I had a long and and I mean long conversation with my wife on the phone. She told me about the OM and what he does for her. He took care of her, listened to her, validated, etc. He sounded like a pretty good guy EXCEPT FOR THE FACT THAT HE'S MARRIED AND SO IS SHE!!! I said wow, that sounds great, so is he gonna leave his wife for you? She said no, I know it doesn't make any sense. I want to have both. I said you can't have both. You're going to have to choose and you're going to have to do it soon. I said, I don't think I can put up with much more of this. I asked if she had contact with him today. She said she saw him in the gym. I said did you speak with him? She said yes. I said why. She said I can't not speak to him. I said, yeah you can--I said that's part of the deal, you're breaking it---don't talk to him! She said ok. I said if I find out you're seeing him then it will be over. She said this is not fair to you or our daughter. She said I think there's something wrong with me. I said then get some help. It's free for the military. I said even if it doesn't work out for us you need to get some help. I said when are you going to decide. She said you need to give me a deadline. I said I'm not ready to do that. She said I know you're getting tired of this. I don't deserve you. We finally got past this and she said if we get back together I would like a ceremony on the beach. Ok, sounds good to me, I would love to have a ceremony on the beach when you are ready to move back home and work on our marriage. She then described it, etc. Great! Then she talked about when we move(I noticed how she went from if to when in a lot of the conversation) and where we could move to.

This was one of the most bizzare conversations I've ever ever had in my life. The old me would have filed for divorce by now. I'm pretty sure 97% of the population would have filed by now(this is a guess). What the hell is wrong with her? I mean, how the hell am I supposed to deal with this? Do I just sit and wait it out? I am truly, truly disgusted.