Still getting nowhere fast....

[lost-n-Iowa]

Been awhile since I have been on here. Though my last post was bad on my H's part, things have been going pretty good for us. We have spent some time together and have been having a good time with each other. I was getting some hope back in me for this M.

Then it all came crashing down last night and tonight.

My H had started texting my sis and asking her a lot of questions about her sexual preferences...(my sis is bisexual and likes 3 somes..to each there own.. I never look bad on her cuz she is my sis) She plays along and 'flirts' with him and he says that he is not happy with our sex life and so on. She tells me about this and even reads some of the texts to me. I was in shock that he would be asking her this stuff and telling her that he wants 3 somes but that I refuse and that I refuse to do some other things that are better left unsaid.

After my initial shock of this I called my sis back today and asked her for her help. I asked her to bait my H and see what she could get out of him. Well lo and behold...my H admitted to cheating on me with many girls, many times, has had 2 3somes since we got married, and that he wants more. My sis baited him even further and asked him if he would like to join her and a friend of hers. He said yes and she is suppose to be setting this up. Then he has the balls to ask her if she would like to play around just the two of them before a friend gets there. She said that she would have to think about that but would get back to him. He says ok and tells her "EAT U LATER" as a goodbye to her.

I have skipped many parts of the conversation between them that last 2 hours, but you get the jist of what was said. The entire time that he was texting her, she was forwarding all of his and her texts on to me, so I was getting the minute by minute play.

They end their conversation and 5 MINUTES later he is calling me to say hello, tell me and the girls goodnight. He even talks to me like normal and when he gets off the phone says LOVE YOU HUN. I said it back so he did not get any suspisions that I had a problem with him.

I thank all of you that have replied to me and tried to help me out. I noticed a pattern on here with all the replys though..not one person told me to try and save my marriage, told me to get out while I could. I chose not to listen becuz I wanted my marriage to work so badly. I am listening now!!! I am filing for divorce and getting out. I will not raise my girls in an enviroment where a man thinks that he can do this to a wife and she takes it. I will not let my girls endure anymore of him. Thank God he is thier step dad and has NO rights to them.

Again I say thank you to all who replied. I guess you were all right and I just did not want to take off the rose colored glasses. They are gone now....gone with alot of myself with them.