I think you did a great job too Silver. You were calm, pleasant and validated.
Jon is right, he wants you to be a guest at his pity party. You can, and did, politely decline.
It's all about actions or lack thereof.
I refused to see xBF until he told me he was done with OW. And that turned out to be not true so I refused to see him again until he quit his bowling team. Actions.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g