It's hard for me too honestly! B/c I have the same thoughts.... no kids, not married long.... I wish I could just let it go and say the heck with it! But I want to stick to my commitment through to the end of the M regardless what my H does. I can still honor our vows despite his actions.

I have talked to both. I am going to consult a L again probably this week or next week and discuss options with her. If nothing else, I want to make sure I'm protected and have the weight of the legal process lifted off me while I'm deployed. I want someone there w/o worrying about everything while away.

Me:28, first M
H: 33, second M
Married: 08/08
Bomb: 10/08
H filed D and deployed: 12/08
Served: 04/09
I deploy: 07/09
Hearing date: 08/09