Thx Pearl. I guess everyone's timeline is different, but good to know a month or more isn't unusual.
I went for a hike with FIL tonight. Didn't discuss H or the R at all. Figured if he brought it up that would be fine, but he didn't other to ask if I was doing okay which I said I was. Good small talk and stories... I think I indicated I'm doing all right, which I was until I got on the computer tonight.
Came home and the OW (all of 21) had changed her facebook page to note she was no longer single and 'in a relationship', and her 'love' was making her a dinner tonight.
Of course, no real evidence that she and H are involved other than all the text and cell ph calls. Praying it's another guy she's interested in now. But if it is my H, it breaks my heart.
Yes, I shouldn't be obsessing about it, but OW and I are 'friends' on facebook, so it was right there to see. I'm trying to visualize a big stop sign like C has suggested... I can't control whatever is or isn't going on. But H was telling me he loved me less than 2 months ago. Could their R really be progressing that quickly... I hope not, but again, out of my control.
Sorry for the venting, but gotta get this out. I feel so confused and helpless! I haven't talked to H in 3 weeks, other than a few text messages about bills, etc. I've done a great job of really giving H the space he wanted but now it feels like I've completely lost control of the sitch and lost him. I'm praying hard but still worrying and obsessing, so I'm really not letting it go.
