same sad story here - 100 hrs/week as an icu doctor - made time for every hospital issue, never wife and kid, and eventually she didnt need me anymore. separated at this time - she is not mad, just totally over me, and hopes i wont waste my time chasing her so i will not spend years being hurt like she was. she is a neuropsychologist, and seems her mind is pretty made up. i have already dropped lots of hospital duties, and spent more time in this last month since d-day with 7yoD than in the last 4 years, but she says thats great i changed for myself and D, but its too late for us. i really screwed up by thinking of suicide the first day, registered for a gun, but unregistered the next dy and gave W reciept to show i hadnt bought it. she trusts me with our D on weekends, but i know the gun idea really hurt any hope of reconcilliation. i'll keep trying - bought micheles books - they really helped understand how badly i screwed up by ignoring the family. warnign signs were there, just didnt see the blaring lights - this may be a situation where the last resort technique doesnt work - after ignoring W, doing more of the same may not be the best approach? thanks for any advice
