Well, since I lost weight and was nearly perfect db'ing, he went bananas and is losing weight working out etc. The difference is, I was evasive. He is a showoff by nature and has so much as told me that his life is so much better now. Funny though, we are still such a part of eachothers' lives and he hasn't lost much of anything. We were even having sex but I put an end to it (started to feel like a prostitute). Anyway, now I'm spinning like crazy. He leaves his family, loses weight, is supposedly meeting fabulous people (he's so impressed with celebrities), he's got lots of "new" friends and he even brings up women and then, oh but she's just a friend...and there are so many. Aaargh. My db worked so well, he decided to one up me. Only difference is that he insists we are 100% done and I'm obviously not. Maybe I need to step up my game and really pull back. This is frickin' torture, especially with kids in the middle. And, sometimes I wonder, by the time our lives have been torn apart and the kids have suffered, am I gonna even want this self-centered pr**k back? That's right now, ask me tomorrow and I'll be back to "we have to be together." Thanks for your help. Last straw today was he made a reference to having some people at our house (which is basically mine right now) while he watches the kids and one of them is female. I said that's my boundary. He admitted he was being provocative and agreed not to do it. Is he provocative to hurt me??? To get back at me? Show me all the awesomeness I lost? Or impress me in some a**-backwards mating ritual? Aaargh. Thank you for being here. Everyone else thinks he's either a total a88hole or I'm crazy (maybe both).
