Wow, BND and Jack, I wish you would've given me your opinions on what I should do while I was struggling with the issue...

So if you two are correct, then how would you NOW suggest to salvage it?

M51, H49, D21
M 23yrs, T 28yrs
3/07 - OW Bomb
6/07 - move to MIL's; OW relocate
10/07 - OW2 Bomb
5/08 - secretly move to OW2's
end/08 - secretly get beach apt w/OW2
2/09 I petition Legal Sep, not served yet