Mark, I did not reconcile yet but I most definitely will. Mark, I was in a quite similar situation, my wife two years ago was saying that I was a terrible parent, now she says the opposite. If you can convince her, by your long term actions that you are a good daddy indeed, than you a half way back to having your family together. Also, I can not even say how beneficial this would be for you and your kids. Take the responsibility for them. Now what I think is good in your situation is to tell your wife, or even wright her a letter that you understand why did she walked away, that you do not beg her to reconcile, but from now on you wish to be a great father. This you may need to draw a line to show her - before it was an old you and now you are different. But Mark it took you years to get you where you are now, and may take many months to get out. Next please do not get anxious about what she does when you stay with kids. First at all this is destructive and it is completely out of your control. Better concentrate on kids. Even if she does have an affair, which is not likely, this does not mean she is happy in her new relationship. But I think she just needs a time for herself. Best, Art
