HELP! Is ML to try to reconnect a mistake?

[brandnewday]

Where do you come off with that? Read the posts before I had decided when to serve. I was going to wait. But I followed advice from other DBers that helped me get the gumption to even serve him at all!

Obviously you took advice from the wrong people.....
Drama begets drama....

Having him served wasn't the issue, it was the way you chose to do it.

Most of us would have chosen to have our Lawyers handle the issues, so it could have been perceived as a business arrangement, not a personal vendetta.

It would have made you look much better, especially for when you go to Court.

There was no plan to ruin his vacation with OW, but serving him was something I had to do anyways, but just hadn't because of fear... As for the timing, it was better to do it before for many factors. He's already used our assets towards their vacation, and since he's been getting moving funds around, I certainly didn't want him to hide more money in foreign accounts. The OW is German, and they've been making several trips to Canada already.

Really?

Hmmmm!!!

Hard to believe when they used your "points" to buy the tickets.

You already were mad that your D21 couldn't go to Ireland as he had used the points.

Sorry I do not believe you.

But my opinion doesn't matter.

To thine own self be true.

And as for my daughter, she's been the one trying to get me to serve him all this time, while I was paralyzed. Do you have a daughter? You do, don't you? How is your relationship with her? My relationship with my daughter is great.

Actually I have 5 Daughters.
And 3 Sons.

My D21 and I are close.
My S22 and I are close.

When their Father was in MLC and acting like an assh*le I didn't involve them in my personal issues.

I didn't tell them all of the details of their Father's affairs.

I didn't discuss their Father with them, as I come from a Divorced home.

My parents did that to me and it was awful.

You may not always be his Wife, but she will ALWAYS be his Daughter.

You need to respect that and as much as you may be hurting, you also need to encourage the relationship with her Father.