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Thanks for the responses there I appreciate the input.

Clueless, I hadn't looked at it that way before. Maybe there is something to that. Maybe I should just take it as him not being as sure as he other times says he is.

PD, yes, listen and validate...I am trying that whenever I can! I have been really working on listening better(when we actually get to talk cuz its not that much!) Actually looking him in the eyes and really listening, most of the time he wont give any eye contact back. I am trying to validate when I see the chances but feel it never comes out how I meant it to, so need to keep working on this. Also afterwards I reflect and see missed chances...can't do anything about that now tho, just will try better for next time.

He never really put blame on me for what happened(even when I tried to acknowledge my part in this mess) but just says he knows I wasn't happy(no matter what I say), says I've done nothing wrong, don't think that I did or change anything about myself and even went so far as to say he knows he couldn't have asked for a more loving, caring, or better person.

Anyway I am working on what I can do now and will really spend some time this weekend getting back into everything.