If you do not change direction...

[Still Waters]

Yeah we need a "Run like Hell!!!" thread for anyone who is married to a narcissist.

The problem is that narcissism is tough to detect, even for a therapist. They tend to be attractive, successful, and charismatic people, so they're easy to fall in love with. But deep down, they're incredibly insecure and they make terrible spouses because they can't see past their needs. They make you feel like you are the sole problem of everything that's wrong with your marriage, which in turns makes you feel bad, but you really don't understand why. In fact, you start to believe your spouse, which often sends you into a depression. Which of course makes your narcissist spouse want to get away from you. They don't feel empathy, so they won't rush in to save you when you fall into that depression. They'll simply take it as proof of how lame you are, and use it as justification for them to have an affair.

I'd be interested to see how many WAS's have some level of narcissistic personality disorder. How else can you explain their willingness to cause so much pain and suffering to their families while they run off and have affairs? It's a total lack of empathy, which is at the very core of NPD.