I Never Imagined Being Here

[PortlandDad]

MI: If no contact is working, then keep doing it. Your mutual friend said it: she is confused and overwhelmed. Those are signs that she is still in turmoil about what is going on, so I'd say that going dim/dark is having an effect.

Tell me: in better times in the past, who would be the first one to initiate contact? If it was your W, then I'd say a very brief message to her about nothing consequential would be a 180 on your part, right? If you were the one to usually initiate, then sit pat and keep working on yourself and detaching.

Hang in there: it does get easier.