My Story -- Advice for a Left Behind Spouse

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I also feel for what you are saying in that it is harder for spouse to see changes you are making when separated. I also am trying to negotiate this. So you have to make the best of the time you do have or see your spouse. Make sure to be positive, upbeat and not bring up any R talk. I am trying to work on this myself and it is hard but hopefully will get easier. Also what blueheart said about being the first to leave or end the contact is important and really difficult(for me anyway). So try to do that and see how it goes. I havent been able to do that yet but it is def a goal for next time I do see H.

Dont worry about checking in with the board! I find that when I am feeling worse I am reading or checking on here more. And the reading usually helps me feel better or get new ideas/support. Also it doesn't matter how often you check on here if it is keeping you from contacting W when you are trying not to!

GAL activities help tho too. You will feel better if you are busy. Have you started any of these?

cb