It sounds to me like you are doing really well. You have started on some 180's and been doing good with the not contacting. Keep strong with acting as if. It must be hard to help her move out and she must know this so good on you for holding up there. I am at that point myself as I am pretty sure H will want to move his stuff out next week. Just not sure if I'll be able to help or not.
I think that the game playing with the question you mentioned is childish. One question could never and should never determine someone's actions. Its like playing a game where you don't know the rules so of course your not going to be able to read her mind and choose the 'right' answer. Maybe it was her way of justifying what she was about to do?
Keep your head up and keep working on not contacting and your 180's. I find that like your sitch I have no kids either so dont have daily or weekly contact back and forth regarding this and find it trying to not call, txt or email but have been sticking to the not contacting thing and it did start to work for me. Anyway keep up the positive work you have been doing!
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Last edited by hopeful_cb; 04/22/0906:56 PM.
Me-27 H-28 M-2.5 yrs T-8.5 yrs No kids B 1/09 S 2/09
