I thank you both so much for your imput. I must try to stop this pursuing behaviour, you're very perceptive Kev as I am still pursing which I didn't realise until you said it. I have just returned from work but I went via our house, my wife has taken the children over to the in-laws because she is going out!!! I noticed more shopping bags with underwear she never wore when we were together...why am I torturing myself like this. I must continually read your posts to make me see sense and snap out of this stupid behaviour.
PM, I am so glad you are contributing as I dearly need a woman's perspective and views to help me see what I need to/not do, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Kev, I read Coach's stitch and the main difference which he himself says saved his marriage was the fact his wife was prepared to work at the marriage. My WAW wants out, and as quickly as possible, so I know 'It takes one to tango' will not work, so as you both have said, I need to work on myself and help my children.
By the way, is there any way posts can be saved for future reference?
Lastly, I want to thank you all for giving me perspective and hope. I will take your advice on board and do what you both suggest as it would be disrespectful to you if I did not take heed of what you are telling me. Please continue to post, without you all I would be lost. I cannot wait to get home these days to see if I have received any responses to my posts when I am confused and low. I certainly feel better knowing the advice you have given me will be put to good effect.
Bless you all.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
