Do you call the boys at night to tell them goodnight?
They are your first priority right now. You're letting your W control your actions again. Despite how bad things were between my W and I, I always called to wish my kids goodnight. Even if I was out and about.
It' important to show them that you haven't abandoned them. When your W answers the phone, just tell her you want to wish the boys goodnight and don't engage her. If she talks to you, then fine, keep it light and very short as if you are too busy to talk to her. Then pour on the love when the boys are on.
Sometimes when I called from a bar, I would just tell my W that I was too busy to talk to her and just wanted to talk to the kids. I would make sure she could hear everything going on in the background.
Your W abandoned you. You didn't abandon your kids. Talk to them often and frequently. Not to your W.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
