So great to hear that your situation is on the incline again!
I agree with DQ. I can see the sexy past anything. Maybe this is a female trait. I would think Heidi Klum and George Clooney and Russell Crowe (your celebrity double) would ooze sexy no matter what. Imagine Heidi in Birks and high-waisted mommy jeans and a dopey turtleneck. Imagine Russell in a nerd shirt with pocket protector, glasses, checked pants, and hush puppies. Yep... still hot and f**kable. They have that natural sexy that creates an aura.
BUT, I can see how the *effort* of being more fem or masculine would show that the person is more willing to have sex, even if they don't have a natural sexy aura. And, with more and more sex, I'd bet that aura would build.
So, polarity=a very good idea for an SSM, in my opinion.
