Maybe something as simple as explaing what is going on, how you are trying to work things out if possible and that you are willing to answer any questions that they have to the best of your ability.
You know my ex always tries to say how he is raising them to do this and that. I have seen the boys just look at each other and mouth "right". They know who is doing what and who they count on. Don't let that fool you for a heartbeat. Really I say face it head on.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory