I'm feeling so discouraged

[PortlandDad]

Don't get too discouraged if you have done a few backslides along the way because we all do. Fortunately DBing isn't an exact science or formula, so there is a lot of leeway in how you do it. You are going to have good days and bad. Unless you are a robot and immune to feelings and input from your H, you are going to react to any changes in his temperature, too.

The important thing is that you recognize what isn't working and do a 180 on that specific behavior. I've noticed over your last couple of posts that things seem to be improving in your sitch (the flirting, conversations, time spent together, etc.) so why do you feel that you are backsliding? I agree that you should go a little more dim, but going completely dark doesn't sound like it is warranted. Even at this relatively early stage of the DB game, he is noticing the changes in you and I'm sure he is intrigued, if not interested. By going a little more dim, you will build up that air of mystery and it will help to bring him out of the fog. You said it yourself; what sort of person would trade his gorgeous and devoted wife and kids "in the flesh" for someone a thousand miles away that they've never met in person (and probably never will)?

You have the right idea: keep working on the GAL activities; go a little more dim than before, but not completely dark, and see what happens. Baby steps are still forward steps.