Just got a text saying he was sorry he forgot to give me my present so he's posted it! Another yay!
Taking a double dose of patience (with strawberries!) and enjoying the moment.
I'm looking forward to the weekend coming up. I was going to see my SIL and niece on Friday for the day but it has been cancelled. As I have booked the day off I might just go to the seaside for the day anyway then seeing a friend on Sat and then a really good friend is coming to stay on Sunday night. Should be lots of fun and chocolate!
Wow.. things really seem to have turned a bit of a corner hey, to think you barely spoke to him for a while there (around Christmas??). I'm amazed he was up for meeting again so soon, ubt not only that, but that he came into town on a day he would have worked from home and then met you for lunch afterall. And whats this about the present? So its your birthday is it soon? And he posted you something? Thats fantastic! That was a big sign to me when my ex did that.. you just DONT send your ex presents if you dont want to give them the wrong impression, well, I dont think you do! But.. yeah, we got to try not get too excited about these thihngs... glad you are taking it in your stride! Anyway, really happy for you...
(((Ali))) Nope, not my birthday just a present from his weekend away. I am really pleased with the way things are going. Even if it doesn't progress I just am really proud that it got this far. I hated the fact that he couldn't talk to me and it seemed there was nothing I could do.
Lets hope it continues...
BTW Ms M, thank you for your words yesterday they totally helped me put things in perspective and I kicked the mothering instinct right out the door where it belongs! I was in so much a better frame of mind for the meet up today.
Sounds like the meeting went really really well and that H is feeling a bit more comfortable in the interaction between you. That's great news- well done you. I really like that you were able to be the non-pressuring influence when everyone else is making demands of him.
Remember to keep expectations low! I know you now that, but it's sometimes hard to do in practise when you get a few baby steps at once. Great news overall though- who'd have thought he'd be bringing back presents a couple of months ago?! Fab!
L. xx
PS> sorry for not replying to your e-mail- our system is still down.
((OD))) I am honestly really keeping them at an all time low. In fact I am expecting him to pull back for a while as that was quite a lot of interaction that we had!
Yesterday I sent him a text in the morning basically saying good luck for his job interview and that he'd be brilliant. Last time I did this, it is his second interview, he sent one back saying thanks. THis time I didn't hear all day but then he sent one in the evening telling me how it went which is a little baby step. I sent one back at half midnight, as I was out with my friend till then. I'll wait for a while now, I don't want him to feel over loaded or pressured. The next contact will be house stuff I think.
I'm off to Brighton for the day for my day off in glorious sunshine. I was supposed to be going to see my sil and new niece but they cancelled so my Dad is pulling a sickie and coming with me (he retires really soon! ). We used to do this when I was younger so I think itll be a nice day and really nice to spend time with Dad, as I never really do.
Hi JCj, hope you had a good day in Brighton (not the place to meet single men tho! well at least not those looking for single women-lol so I am told.)
Did you have a paddle and did your Dad wear his knotted hanky? It has been lovely here but more breeze than yesterday. I hope your day was just the tonic you needed.
