A new thread, a new outlook.....

[Can it work]

Hey PM, I am trying to keep my patience increasing. I think to a certain extent I'm managing not too bad. I know this is going to take time and I've accepted that. I'll admit I do have moments where I think I'm just wasting my time and she's not coming around at all but I think you're right when you say she may be noticing a lot of the changes in me. One thing I knew I used to complain about when we were together was that none of my friends contactd me any more. Since she left though, I've really made an effort to get in touch with a lot of my friends and it's really paying off. Where I still have nights of being lonely (mainly when I have Wee Man and he's gone to bed) most of the time I'm keeping busy with various things. That's a real 180 for me because I really didn't have a life outside my W and son when we were together. I realise now that was too much pressure to put on her. She was already a young mother, she shouldn't have to be responsible for my happiness as well.

Hey MsM, where I have nothing against going out and getting p*ssed up drunk on occasion (this coming Saturday being one of those occasions!) I agree that there needs to be more to life. I often tried to find some couple friends for us to hang out with but they seemed to be few and far between. Her brother and my brother and sister are all in stable couples but they all live away from home. That rules them out. Most of her friends are still young, carefree and single so that rules them out. Most of my friends are single too so that didn't leave us with much. We did try to go out for meals and things more often towards the end but it just felt awkward. I think we lost something a long time ago which we need to regain in order to enjoy one another's company.

Our child minder was ill today so we couldn't put Wee Man there. My W took the day off work to look after him. Since it's my day with him she's planning to come to my house with him so as to cause as little disruption as possible. That means she'll be there when I get home from work. Not sure if she'll stay for a chat when I get in but I'd hope so. We'll see though.

Kev