TOH, you have given me advice in the past and good advice at that. Maybe an2M is on to something here. I just read and re-read what she wrote and what you wrote. As a by stander on YOUR thread, I can see the concern that some others have for you. They only know what you tell them here, so apparently your h is violent when drunk. As some men are. I think in that sense they are just looking out for you and your friend. BUT you know BETTER than anyone what your h is capable of. For all we/they know you could have stretched the truth about you h. Just saying. All anybody has to go on on these boards is what we tell them and what they tell us. We might get angry at our h's or xh's and write something looking for sympathy, therefore ONLY YOU know the real truth. SO if you are saying its ok, unless you are covering. KWIM? I am NOT the best at explaining things. It's just alot of times on here people have assumed alot ONLY because I didnt give the proper info to them. It would make me upset because they REALLY didnt know, but yet they only COULD KNOW what I TOLD THEM. Now as far as dating while married, if that is what you are doing, I have to say personally I would not do it. For one, its NOT right, you are still married, that makes you a cheater, (sorry for the harshness of that word), and two, you are lonely and could settle for the first person that said a KIND word to you. Believe me I have wished for ONE MAN to say ONE KIND word to me. Honestly I probably would have to hold myself back.lol No, I hope I am not that bad yet. Anyway, please dont take what I said the wrong way. You have been so nice to give me good advice. You are smart, you know what to do. Let me ask you this, are you afraid that if you put b off he might not wait around for you? I am just asking, because it seems like you really want it to work with him.
I probably shouldnt be giving advice so please anyone correct me if what I said to her is wrong. Including you TOH. You have been thru so much, you deserve to be happy. Just dont fall into the devils trap hon.
Hugs to you, Renee
P.S. Feel free to pop over to my thread and catch up with me, I need all the help I can get.lol
