Probable Affair

[PositivelyMommy]

Dear Mark,

Your thoughts are still about how to control her behavior with OP.

You have to understand, you cannot control her bad behavior. You can only encourage her when she does something right. If she wants to do things behind your back, there is nothing you can do to physically stop her.

You spending more time with kids is YOUR YOU AND YOUR KIDS. Not to control your wife and get on her good side.

So what if she chooses her Friday night off to see OM. It's out of your hands now, you cannot dwell on that.

So please, start with being a good dad. Preserve the relationship that you CAN save. Then when you are REALLY bonded with your kids then MAYBE you are in a position to woo your wife back. Anything other than genuine caring for your kids will appear fake to your wife. She is no dummy. She knows if your heart is in the right place.

So concentrate on you and the kids. If she chooses and affair now, just try to let it go. Most affairs fail, I truly believe it's how you react to them that will determine if she will come back to you. If you chase, berate, antagonize, scream at her, then she will not think that you are a safe place to go back to. However, if you follow her around like a puppy, waiting for any scraps then she won't respect you.

Be confident, know what you want but don't beg.

Start with being a good father like others suggested here. Nurture your lovely kids, they need you the most now, not your wife. They already have one unpredictable parent, they need you now more than ever. Please.