Thank you for the advice. We have only been sepeated for two weeks, so this is very raw for me. Did you get back together with your wife? I saw a post by lostfireman who said most WAW's never look back, was this the case in your relationship? I just want to see someone who successfully reconcilled, though from what I can see they do seem quite rare. I'm looking for hope really.
I can see from your post I can make a difference to our relationship my being a good father which would be a 180 for me as she says I never spent enough time with them when they were younger, which is true. Is this what you meant when I asked the question about 'fueling the affair' that it would be good for my marriage to have the children more? Are you telling me I have to more of a pro-active father and offer my support to my wife, because these are things that I did not do and has caused our relationship to flounder, and it would be 180's for lots of reasons. She has asked me to have the children over night on Friday, I believe it is to see OP and she obviously would stay over night somewhere. If I had the children I would continually think about what she is doing, should I have the children so that she can do what she wants? I do not think she would be thankful or look at me in a better light, just offloading the children is very selfish and the deceit to me is dis-respectful.
Art, the problem is I was not a loving husband, I took my wife for granted and treated the house like a hotel. I never supported her when she needed me, I never spent enough time with the children and this is why I believe she has had enough. She said I never really loved her, I did and do but I did not show it to her. How can I prove my love for her, in fact I love her more now than ever, and how can I try to fix what looks un-fixable?
I look forward to a response.
Last edited by markhaving probs; 04/22/0905:34 AM.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
