really need advice WAW

[markhaving probs]

I pray my WAW will see I am a better man and father when the time is right. At the moment I do not want to think my future is not going to be with my wife or ex-wife as she will be a couple of months. If she is with somebody else I have to try and be a better man than him, but as I do not know for sure who this person is/might be I cannot do anything about it. As has been said before many times, we cannot do or say anything that will change a WAW, therefore try to focus on your children and you.

In time who knows what will happen, but you will always have a connection with your wife because of your children. Try to keep the moral high ground, try to rise above anything that may be said to hurt you, she will continually try to justify her decision, therefore do not get drawn into arguments and try to use the techniques in DR and the more experienced posters here.

I will not give in until I know I have no chance of getting my wife back, this is the most painful experience I have ever had, but I also do not want to be in an endless painful limbo either. Try to be upbeat, try all the techniques you can and try to monitor things, the point being if you want to save you relationship and you are like me, if I have to drop the rope and move on, I do not want to think I did not do everything I could to try and save our relationship. If I am being honest I do not think my relationship can be saved either as too many things have happened over the years which I was oblivious to, I also know I will be heartbroken and incredibly sad for years, but I must be strong for my children and for me that might be the only way any possible reconcilliation may be possible in the future.