Holding onto Hope

[In Limbo]

Thanks Alive and Sandi.
As for doing something very different, I need to think about that. For practical reasons, I don't want to be the one to move out. BUT, I'm sure there are many other things I can do that he would not expect. Asking him to leave full time might be it. I've also considered telling him that every other weekend he can have the kids full time and I'll leave the house (go out of town, go to a hotel, whatever just to have a break and GAL). Both of those would be 180s for me I think. Another 180 would be to put my foot down about the Porsche. What father of 2 needs his only vehicle to be a car without a back seat? How would he ever take them anywhere? I could just say, not as long as we have joint finances. He'd probably just take action on that but he'd be surprised that I took the hard stand.

I'm in a much better state of mind today and don't want to go back to where I was yesterday. It was frightening to feel so hopeless. I go home from my business trip tomorrow night and know the next couple of days will be a real challenge because we'll be in the same house and Thursday night H will be going to concert with group that includes OW. I have got to get my focus on me and off H, regardless of where he is, who he's with or what he's doing. When he comes home from the concert will be a perfect time to DB. I don't plan to ask him any questions or be up waiting for him - even if I'm awake I'll be asleep to him. The next day I'll be kind, but uninterested in his night. Any other DB tips?

As for wanting him back, I do want him back but I want back the H I used to know. I have a solo appt with our MC Thursday and hope he can help me with some detachment techniques. We have a MC appt on Friday, but I'm not sure what to even discuss. The whole thing seems a bit pointless as long as he's MLC and doesn't want to work on our marriage. What do you discuss in MC when that's the case? What do I discuss that's still DB? Any advice on how to approach MC when you're DBing?