I am soooo glad you had a great weekend with your D. Nothing helps like having a good time to lift your spirits. Your D going back home and telling your W how much fun you were, etc., helps too!
About your uncle and the funeral......I am so sorry that you have to face this unhappy event. I would, however, not make your W feel that she should make an appearance. If she knows about it or asks anything, I would tell her when you plan to go, etc. You might even tell her that if she should decide she wants to go that she is invited to go with you but if she had rather not, you certainly understand. It is kind of hard to know how to "word" some of these things. I just know she probably does not want any type of pressure, but it also may depend on how close she felt to your uncle.
Your friends that are having problems in their M and are asking for your help.......the very best thing you can do for them is to be honest with them and say that you cannot help them b/c you can't even help yourself. You are having to go to a C and you would advise them to do the same. I say this as strongly as I know how......DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH THEIR PROBLEMS!! You will be sorry.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
