It's great to see that you have identified the main issues and what you can do about it. I hope you know that many people are dealing with the same issues so your sitch is not unusual. I say that wanting to show you that you are not alone.
I think the most important right now is to continue to GAL. What new/old activities are you doing? And if you say working out I want to hear at least two others. These activities are important for several reasons: it will help you get your mind off the sitch by filling it with other things, bring joy into your life and help erase the sadness, it addresses an issue that was important to your W, and most importantly, it helps you be the best person you can be.
Have you seen the Jim Carrey movie "Yes Man"? Watch it. Even if you don't like him or that genre. I saw it in the middle of my sitch and it really sparked the desire to GAL. Now I do all sorts of things I never would have tried before and I'm having so much fun!
Don't focus on the fact that you don't have kids. xBF and I don't have kids either and I used to envy those people who had some reason to stay in contact. But honestly I couldn't detach with him around and since we've lived apart I finally feel comfortable at home.
And after a month xBF started asking if he could come visit the cats. Others have had WAS offer to come over to mow the lawn or want to pick up things, etc. So you don't need kids in the picture to have a connection. If she wants to see you she will find a way.
Remember that you need to focus on you right now. You cannot control your W's actions or emotions so just work on becoming the best person you can be.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
