Lan, Here's another DBing technique, in addition to look good, smell good, GAL, etc, etc (remember the one's people used to list to every newcomer). My new piece of advice to the gentlemen is tto be a real Bad Ass. http://www.ehow.com/how_2058086_be-badass.html
W gave me the kick start I needed, she said "you've left it too late to get fit for the run". My response was "No I haven't". And there you go thats me spurred into action, also a couple of comments about me putting on weight plus there being no chance of any action in the short term have given me somthing to focus on.
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From nice guy to bad ass mf,that's a big step in my book.
Things have been quiet for a while mostly good, so I haven't been posting any detailed daily interactions with W and myself. I have been focussing on training for my run. D7 is ok. FIL is dealing with his chemo, my mum has been in hospital with her diabetes, but once they change her from tablets to insulin injection she should be ok. So daily life goes on.
W internet chat usage is down, or so I thought as I've not seen her on the computer as much. Anyway today I had to access my home email account from work via the internet as I had to contact D7's school about some matter. Anyway while I was there I had a peek at W account (we can have the snoop or not to snoop argument another time). So there on the server account is a trail of IM conversation between W and whoever it is shes chatting to. I can't see the details of the conversation but can see titles and I'm not happy with them. Seems like she goes on the computer when I'm out of the house and then she has been deleting stuff to cover her tracks.
So I've sent W a txt to the effect of "I've spoken to [OM] re messages so I know what's going on".
I haven't really spoken to him but it was all I could think of to get the ball rolling. So at this point 4 hours on, no response from W, not even to say "wtf was that txt all about ?".
If W goes true to form there won't be much point in having a discussion cos she'll just come up with a packs of lies, but at least I've brought it out into the open and killed off the secrecy angle. I was tempted to contact OM as he "Misses W" or he "thinks about her all day", but I don't think that will do any good at the moment.
So feeling I'm annoyed, hurt, betrayed (again) and let down, but not entirely surprised(I always trust my instincts).
So all I can say now is we'll see what happens from here.
Sorry to hear about your recent discoveries...I do not have much to go on but it sounds like she is up to something. Screw the snoop no snoop debate....at this point I think you should put the cards on the table. Actually I think it is time that she get a little shock treatment. An apercu of life without Lan....I think she is due for a little dose of reality....regardless of how her dad is doing. Sorry Lan, I just get a little pissed at some of these antics...
