Thanks TH and Jack,

I'll respond to your posts later tonight. For now, I just got home from work and there's a sad, sad sounding message on my answering machine from H - "I'm wondering if I can come over tonight, I need to get the tax forms. I tried to call you on your cell, guess you've had the number changed - I'll email you". The call was at 7:15 this morning - he knows or used to know that I leave the house by 7. There's no email either.

And no, I haven't changed my cell#, he just hasn't used it in so long he's forgotten it. And, the grass is knee high, trees and limbs are still down from the storm 2 months ago, the house is STILL falling in but he has to have the tax forms? For what? He doesn't bother to say but he was supposed to meet with a bankruptcy L this week.

So I'm sitting here trying to decide what to do. I'm tempted to just email and say the tax forms are on the table, I've got plans for tonight. But I don't really and I don't want to just drive around avoiding him.

Any advice?


Me 56
H 47
Married 21 years
No children
Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself".
Ow Bomb 8/07
H filed 6/08
D final 2/05/10