John - thanks...what you suggest "to try hard to not let it get you down, especially in front of your child" is honestly what I have been trying to do - and pretty successfully so far - every time OM's name slips out of H's mouth - and in all innocence - bless him (although there have been a couple of times I have sensed that he's introduced it into our conversations to let me know something - but in a naive kid way) to date I've done a pretty good job -even though I've felt angry and hurt...
I know for sure that I'm not ever going to burden my son with my pain, force him to make choices or to take sides..so with the best fortitude I can muster at the time I deal with it - but never negatively.
On the upside, I do know that the OM is a down the line good man, although that doesn't make the brutal pain of the loss of my R with W any easier to deal with, I do know that my son is loved and cared for in every aspect of his life, although I do wonder about someone who is prepared to trample all over a fellow human beings feelings -ie mine-especially as I know him - albeit - not well...
I suppose the hardest thing to take is the feeling that I have been manipulated out of my home and R - thinking that it would offer a chance or reconciliation -Puppy would have a field day with that!!!
