Antlers, Thanks for your support! She has said forever though... She has said that she does not think she will ever get it back. She told me in front of the therapist that she doesn't love me and it won't come back. Now she is talking about taking time and baby steps. Which one is it? Or is it both? She mentioned that she needs to work on stuff. If that involves trying to love me again, I'm afraid in will end in futility. When someone has reached a point where they "aren't in love" how do they ever find their way back? She doesn't know and I don't know.
Duly, havent you been reading this board? ALL WAS SAY THIS! It is what gets referred to here as part of the "WAS Script". I am not saying they dont feel this way - they very likely do, when they say it. And it takes time for that to wear away, but again, read these boards, and you will find many many many cases that go from ILYBNILWY(I Love You but not in love with you) and even "I will never love you again" and even to processing D papers, to better love and M's than ever before - mine included.. TWICE!
Which one is it? both.. at different times. It sounds like she is stepping away from the brink of "I can never love you again" - DONT PUSH HER! Just the fact that she is recognizing changes in her own feelings is scarring the crap out of her, let it take its course. Dont worry about what she is working on - that is what she needs to do. When she needs you to know she will tell you.
Stop focusing on what she says, you would be surprised how quickly it can change.. Just keep up working on yourself,
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