Ok Rachael, I can write more now. You know, I just got so sick of how miserable I was. And it was my own fault I was miserable too. I just needed to hit rock bottom to realize it. And hit rock bottom I did when he dropped the bomb. I'm actually grateful now for the bomb. He used to never know what mood I'd be in when he got home. He got sick of that, finally after many years of it. Now I am positive and happy to see him all the time. Men love that!

When I started being nicer to him and treating him the way I SHOULD have (right after bomb) he told me it made him feel guilty. I got the impression he didn't want me start treating him better. I confronted him on that and said "why, does it make it harder for you to split"? He said nothing. I had my answer.

Just treat your man the way the way you always should have. I'm not saying that you were not a good wife, I haven't read your story. I wasn't a good wife. I'm better now. I'm the wife I should have been. I hate that I wasted so many years. I'm making up for them now. Good luck, Lisa

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