Is there any hope or is the damage done

[MrBond]

"Just a thought........how do all LBS cope with contact then no contact."

You take it one day at a time. That's why GAL is very important. You do it for you. You do it to not think about your M. You do it to build yourself up.

All of us LBS's have felt pain that our WAS's cannot imagine. They treat us with little disregard of how we feel and only care about themselves. They will come up with every excuse in the book as to why they're leaving. And guess who they decide to put most of the blame on? The LBS. This crushes our spirit and self-esteem. That's why GAL is so important for you.

It's not a ploy or an underhanded way to get them back. It's a way of you getting a bit of yourself back one day at a time.

I would still suggest you leave the home and take your D with you. Him going in and out of the home shows great disrespect for you. At the very least, I would have him sleep in the living room or a spare room. He doesn't have the balls to be able to share your bed. Before he comes over, I would move all of his belongings into the spare room so he doesn't force his way in.

He will squawk like a dodo bird, but you know what? He is the one disrespecting your marital bed. Not you. Do you want to have his body that has been laying on top of another woman lying next to you a few minutes later? That's the way you have to see it.

Get your dignity back first to get his respect. That's what it comes down to. Your H will not come back to someone he doesn't respect.

I would also suggest you put together a personal soundtrack of songs that help to keep you strong. Songs like "I will Survive" and others will help keep you stay on track.

Next I would also have a strong support system. Do you have many friends or are close to a pastor in the clergy. They will be the ones who will give you strength you need to continue.

And first and foremost, have FAITH that you will be well no matter what. That YOU are the better person. I don't know if you believe in a higher being, but if you do, then praying helps when your faith falters.