lisa, Thanks for the update. As long as staying married (and home) is easier than the alternative (and more enjoyable) then the results are exactly what you worked towards! Actually the process learned through D'ing is what makes the WAS most likely to have that view - I am better off home !
Yes, it is extremely difficult to be upbeat and nice when you want to tell him to 'eat sh!t and die!' LOL but the results of the former are the desired product. My H too has said 'it is difficult when you are nice', 'I like it better when you are a b!tch', etc. They will even try to pick fights and make you the bad one- makes the guilt go away I think it makes them see you for who you really are - the one they married - it is difficult to re-write history when the new memories are happy ...hmmm re-writing a better history, that works for me! It is a balance between tough love and unconditional love - knowing when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em... The edge that the LBS has is that no one (including OP) knows S like you do ! So use that true understanding wisely!
Well, time for bed and 'snowflakes' as my little one calls cornflakes! ...good to read your posts! Faith. Hope. Love. LSL
Ecclesiastes 3 1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: 2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; 3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; 4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; 5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; 6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; 7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; 8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
