Resitance... yes.. thats the word I was thinking this morning, you are resisting.. you have one foot in, some toes out.. I think you have your own reasosn for that, partly H, partly other reasons.. but there still seemed to be a big lack of of communication between you, so I'm glad that he was more open and honest with you and you with him, thats great. I guess it doesnt change the fact that he isnt capable of doing anything about it though !