Yep, those are the requirements. Necessary ones. If she does do some asking or coming to you, have those requirements ready. Don't make any decisions immediately. 48 hour rule. This is your marriage.
Right now I'm polite, and make a bit of small talk during custody exchanges. But for the most part these are uncomfortable, and during the one on Saturday when I looked W in the eyes she was guilty acting and just looked away.
How should I be acting during these? Right now I'm dressing nice, cologne, etc. and being cheerful with D1. Right now just acting like I could care less about W, and I think this bothers her. Being nice hasn't had any sort of impact in the past, just invited her to act less nice towards me. Acting cheerful/etc. seems impossible when she has been doing what she has been doing.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
